I am writing this letter from the Netherlands. I am an average looking man who is looking for a relationship. I have been reading your website articles for about an year now and so far I am able to see the changes in my behavior towards women with the tips available. But I must say, just by reading one of the article or even many, nothing changed within me (i.e. any change from a very nice guy towards a real man).
The changes that so far happened were triggered by my bad as well as good experiences with women and after a few days, it clicks me that, ohh now I get it – this is what was written on that article. So slowly with many mistakes and brownie points, am slowly changing from the very nice guy to a real man.
I must confess, I am yet to transform completely but I am surely on the track and I believe this is not something I can do over a week or a month. So I am being patient and consistent.
Now I have the courage to talk to a random girl on street/train/train station etc and I am able to get their number with a probability of around 3 in 10 or something. However, a mutual match is yet to be found.
Most of the girls I went out with are when I was in a big city. Now I am back to a small student city and unfortunately its a city of technical education which is known for its poor female to male ratio.
Most of the girls here are in a relationship. If not in a relationship and in case they come out, I see that they are a bit arrogant or too picky probably because of the poor female to male ratio. I am now 26 and I would like to find a company and I believe its normal to feel so.
I am confident that I am improving my skills when it comes to women however I am afraid that I am stuck in the wrong place where its a lot of guys and a few girls because of the city being a technical university city. There is nothing else in this city other than the technical university!
So I am planning to shift to a nearby student city where there is a high female to male ratio because of the university there being arts/law/medicine oriented. It is like 30 minutes by train so I can travel to my present university everyday where I do PhD studies.
I am counting on the fact that, since there are more girls than guys in this nearby city, there be a higher probability of meeting a matching personality and I expect the girls to be not so arrogant or too picky as is the case where I live now (well to an extend the arrogant part might be reflected because of my still to be taken out nice guy characteristics. still..)
What is your view on this?
Thanks a lot for the great website. Its helpful for guys like me who are in the process of getting rid of nice guy syndrome.