I m confused

by Prashant Verma
(New Delhi, India)

I have a girlfriend, we are living in India. My name is Prashant and her name is Sumaiya. We both are doing graduation in India. We have a long distance relationship, we live in cities separated by 600miles. We mainly talk on the phone, and we get very less opportunity to meet each other due to our busy schedule and studies. But we love each other very much in spite of all problems.

The problem is that she hates any type of interaction with any girl whether it be on facebook or by any other means. Whenever she finds out that i have done so, she gets furious n stops answering my calls n messages and after prolonged melodrama i get to convince her and the next moment she becomes as normal as nothing has ever happened. Our relationship has not been so long (only 6 months).

We knew each other when I was in 9th grade and she was in 7th grade. During school days I was very much like a playboy of the school and due to my good looks and witty and strong nature I was also like a homing beacon for girls. The story today is still the same. She knows everything about me and my past girlfriends.

I love her very much and due to that I have turned down many girls. I don’t know why she has to do this. After every 3 to 4 days she comes up with a new reason to get angry or she gets angry even if I discuss about any girl even if she happens to be my best friend.

Recently I posted my pics on facebook with my female friends taken at a birthday party. She got so furious that she blocked me and didn’t replied to my calls and messages for full 1 week. I have convinced her anyhow by all means necessary but these incidents have left me confused that what should i do.

I do care for her and love her and its not that i lack in expressing myself but then also she told one of our mutual friend that i don’t value her or care for her, there is an unknown problem between us.

There is one more thing, every time she gets angry she says that “Don’t call me or message me, i don’t want to talk to you and our relation is over”. This is her clothing line for every time when she gets angry with me.

I have started feeling like a whimpering puppy without any help.

Please help me.

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I am Confused As To Why She Gets Jealous Easily
by: Dave Anan

Is she a first daughter or an only child??
In the field of relationship and dating you are bound to encounter girls of different temperaments, love languages and attitudes.

I used to date a pretty girl that occasionally shut down at will just without reasons; at some point she just stops talking to me, speaks out of turn and likes to stay indoor.

At first I wanted to deal with it by dialogue or via a round table conversation but it never worked until I learned to stay away and let her dance when ever she feels like.

She may always be like that for a very long time what you need to do is learn to tolerate her if you really love her. You need to stay away each time she gets furious, stop leaving messages stop apologizing or sending long text messages hoping to convince her.

Most women are just like that – they get jealous easily

Just stay away, greet her when you see her like nothing is happening, just maintain your cool and she will always run back to you after her dance.

Then welcome her.

But you need to be sure that she loves you?

has she responded to your calls??

In reply to your questions for my problem.
by: Prashant Verma

She has two younger brothers.

When i called her she said “We will talk later” and then disconnected my call. I have not called her since then, hoping for her “LATER” to come soon.

When I Am Confused With A Girl
by: Dave Anan

You just need to find a way to sell yourself to her without appearing needy or desperate and stop calling except you have something else to say apart from apologizing or telling her that you are fed up with her attitude or begging her to change for good.

You are going to play the hard to get, it’s not like any relationship game and I don’t believe in playing games but there is a need to inculcate the right and positive mental attitude.

like I said before, make out time to get close to her them abandon her in the middle of everything like she is not important with a smile on your face. (to make it look original)

always be the first to drop the call.

You need to see this article about How to Inspire Jealousy in Girls

The idea is to make yourself appealing again, it works like magic. It is either this or she may slip off your hands.

It takes a lot of self-improvement to really date pretty girls.

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