I walked in on my girlfriend with another man and she said no (sex)

by Yamah

We met on friday and planned on going to see my friend on Saturday afternoon. then by 7pm same day she called me and said she was going to a party, initially we never talked about any party but I said she is free to go (which I am regretting now) Then in the morning(Saturday) I txted if she was awake and she should get ready
for our trip. I waited a while, there was no reply then I went over to her house and saw a car parked outside. which seem weird because We don’t own cars, so I thought it could be her girlfriends’ so I opened the door(I had the key too) about to walk in when she stormed outside and said “leave, I am drunk and I don’t want you to see me like this,” that was unusual.

I tried bypassing her and she was almost guarding the door with her life “Leave” she said again then I left not quite sure what I should believe. I took off without saying any word, came back to my house and realized I dropped my keys somewhere so I went back to her house , it was 12pm and the car was still parked outside. I found my keys, went back home

And began thinking, Then I put it all together.
1)she never sleeps naked, not for the past four months we’ve been literally sleeping together.
2)she couldn’t be intoxicated all night and even in the morning
I was thinking all this when she walked into my room and after several minutes she finally came clean…and said she met the guy last night and he followed her to her house…and they fooled and kissed but…no sex.

for several minutes I was non responsive, then she started crying, talking about how she loved me and told me how important I am to her and how she never would be happy if I leave her. I let her cry for hours before I started calming here down. The more I think about the thing we had been through, the sweet moments, the more I even wanted to cry. She cried on me for more than 2 hour before I held her hands and took her home.

Now I am alone, confused, need your advice on what to do. Thank

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I walked in on my girlfriend with another man and she said no (sex)

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re:I walked in on my girlfriend with another guy.
by: Anonymous

Drunk or not, bringing another man into her house and sleeping naked is way over the line. And which red-blooded guy would spare a naked drunk pretty girl, even when she is naked and inviting. I think that is low self control but it is up to you to make decisions, If you really love her, and she cried for hours, then it could be a mistake she’d never repeat in her life time. People do get out of line, everybody does, and I am the type that gives second chance.

Keep digging!!!
by: Jerome

I think you should keep on hammering on that one to find out the real truth, he could be her ex, why not find out who the guy is first. To verify her story

by: Yamah

Hi all,
Thanks for all the help, I think it is now coming together. we have been through a lot together that’s why I couldn’t hold my self initially. and I saw her yesterday(about the guy) and she maintained she never knew the guy from Adam. And I don’t want that to be my problems now, I am trying to adjust, thanks

It is all up to you
by: Dave Anan

I understand how it feels when ones meat is given to another, promiscuity is a wild cat that needs to be eliminated. About what to do with your girlfriend, I think it is all up to you to now decide. follow your heart.

she invited another man to her house??
by: Anonymous

I think inviting another guy into her room and sleeping naked is not proper and she got very low self esteem, period!!

Down grade her to fuck buddy status NEW
by: Anonymous

Dude, keep fucking her until you find anohter girlfriend. You shouldn’t have a long term relationship with her. Down grade her to a sex partner, and keep looking for another girl. If you leave her right now, when the urge to fuck comes then you might not have anyone to wet your dick with. So tell her its all ok and you are open minded and that you dont own her but you want to keep seeing her and still look for other girls. dont be exclusive to this ho bro.

real NEW
by: allen

what u should do is ask who the man is, and if she doesnt know, both of you should go to the club. let her pick the man. he is probably going to come to the club same time and day or to her house again because he got free sex if she told you the truth.
you should know that if u never went to her house, she probably wouldnt have told you anything. i think she thought you new. and let me warn you, if u dont get to know the guy and bring him home with her to talk as friends, she will still do it. when u are friends, she will begin to feel urgly sleeping with her man’s friend behind his back.
if u dont mind, let her get tierd of sleeping with him.
that was too bad, a guy she met the first time and even in the club? men, it sounds like she’s been a prostitute, but love conquers all and no one is perfect. who knows if your next girl friend will sleep with your dad. the devil you know and you have learnt how to manage is better than the angel you know nothing about. manage her until u learn how to make her that woman u want.

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