Why Does She not want a relationship just now?
I met a 30 year old girl I am 50, she has 3 kids, divorced, and had some bad boyfriend experiences, she has been single for 8 months raising her kids alone, I live interstate but see her for a week every month, we get on well and have a lot of fun. when we met she said don’t fall in love with me, I don’t want a relationship with anyone.
We have been seeing each other for 5 months now, she still says she don’t want a relationship with anyone, she says she likes me a lot, but changes the subject when I talk about it becoming more, when she has a few drinks occasionally she seems to say it is more than just liking me but when she sobers up she says it was the alcohol talking.
She is not seeing anyone else and we chat daily for hours.
I don’t want to invest more time if it is not ever going anywhere but i do have strong feelings for her so don’t want to walk away from that.
If I try to discuss it she avoids the question.
we have been intimate since we first met but it is very physically satisfying sex for us both but no show of emotion allowed.
no kissing, no hugs afterwards.
I assist her a lot financially but she never asks for help, I just volunteer it.
When asked she says she doesn’t feel the same as me but she does like me.
Do you think this is worth persisting with or is she not going to fall in love and i’m wasting my time. I want to be in a committed relationship, not a casual arrangement that is just fun for a while.