Why she is pushing me away after showing so much interest in me?
I read some books about atracting young beautiful women and I understand some of the principles. I dated Laura once, we had a blast on that date, we danced, had nice drinks and hangout in a couple of bars. We kissed , huged and hold hands alot.
Everything went fast but she seemed to be very comfortable about how things were happening. I called her after 4 days and she said she was a little scared how things happened so fast, I told her I understood how she was feeling so we decided to go slower.
We dated 2 times more (long dates) we had an amazing time together and at the end of both dates we behaved very affectionate to each other just like in the 1st date. I was confident, I made her laugh, she complimented me alot about my confidence, my dance skills, my job, my looks, my manners, she said “you are definitely a catch” so beacuse of all this things I thoguht SHE WAS INTO ME VERY SERIOUSLY.
So I told her I was interested in her and I would like to get know her better. Then next morning she asked me to meet her for lunch and she says she can not commit anyone right now and it would be better if we stop seeing each other.
She said her studies and new job is her priority right now. I DID NOT EXPECT this coming at all. And unforutnately I showed my dissapointment to her by saying things like: “why are you doing this? doesn’t make any sense” I know it might ve sounded whimp but I couldn’t helped it, this was a huge surprise for me. Anywas I sent her a letter 10 days later saying that I respect her decision and that my friendship iS open to her, that’s it clear and sweet.
She called few days after to invite me to an charity event and during that week we texted and talked over the phone a couple of times. Seemed like, in a way, she was coming back to me. But when I invited her for ice cream one day, she canceled in the last minute and next day sent me a long email.
She said something like ‘I apologize for leading you on and you are a great guy but I m not the girl for you and I dont see myself in a romantic relantioship with you. I really think we shouldn’t see each other again”
what happened here? I acted as friend during that week, she is the one who was contacting me again. I am so confused, you do not behave like she did when you don’t like a guy. She was so into me and suddenly she doesn’t want to see me at all. How can I prevent this from happening again??